The paper weaves personal accounts of the author's relationship with the holocaust as a third-generation survivor, clinical material from a Dissociative-Identity-Disorder client and societal considerations to demonstrate the potentially devastating effects of unprocessed trauma. The challenges of working relationally with dissociative clients illustrate the parallel processing taking place between therapeutic growth and socio-political activity and questions the possibility and desirability of separating those completely. Healing dissociative, unprocessed trauma may require an attachment-based, relational support not only in the clinical setting, but also culturally. Since addiction-to-trauma creates biased logic structures, normalizing - and even romanticizing the traumatic material, healing involves a grieving process to foster the transition from fragmentation into relatedness.