This paper looks at different routes into a long-term couple attachment. It asks some preliminary questions about the differences between them and how effective they may be at helping individuals make a lasting and mutually fulfilling bond. It distinguishes between the experience of being in love and that of a long-term attachment bond; there is recognition that the transition from one to the other may be especially challenging for people with insecure attachment patterns. The conclusion suggests that a family background with secure attachments is beneficial for those using any of these three main routes into relationship.