Don't be put off by the top title of this book. It's catchy, upbeat and gets to the gist of what it is all about. But the chances are that it will be too readily dismissed by the more serious minded, who may well see it as too populist, too superficial or trivial to be bothered with. Well, if so, that would be a pity. For this is an important book dealing carefully with an abidingly delicate subject. It is written by someone with a wealth of experience as a teacher, trainer and counsellor, with a