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This article investigates the couple relationship portrayed in Richard Linklater's film trilogy, focusing especially on the third film, Before Midnight (2013), which shows the couple ten years into their relationship, each partner grappling with pain and anger connected to the unacknowledged sacrifices they have made. This article examines the psychic system they have created which helps navigate the rage and hatred, whilst ensuring that the relationship and their love survive. The game of hide-and-seek is used as a metaphor; the couple in the film are recognised as both being “in hiding”, but without any anticipation of “being found”. The metaphor is explored to illuminate what is necessary in an intimate couple relationship and also for what the couple therapist needs to offer the couple—a lively emotional engagement as well as a “seeking” of their unconscious couple interaction. It acknowledges both “seeking” and “finding” each other as well as “being found”, as essential ingredients in developing intimacy in an ongoing way. This article includes a clinical vignette and looks at how different versions of hide-and-seek mirror different levels of psychic development.