THERE IS A SUBTLE YET DISTINCT AWKWARDNESS that comes over those readers of Kohution "Self Psychology" who have been trained in the tradition of Interpersonal Psychoanalysis. It is rather like the discomfort one might feel stumbling into someone else's family quarrel at a point at which younger family members are declaring their autonomy and freedom of thought from the confining strictures of their elders. One listens with rapt attention, recognizing in the declaration of independence much that one identifies with, seeing great similarities to one's own way of thinking. Yet, a tired background chorus of, "I've said that often before," or "I believe that too," seems unnecessary, and most likely would be decidedly unappreciated. A more appropriate response