This personal account of the author's decision to terminate her longestablished practice and relocate, demonstrates how the therapeutic process is affected when patient and analyst struggle together with similar feelings and experiences. In these forced terminations, it was the patients who were being left and who had to deal with feelings of loss, fear, rage, sadness, and betrayal. The author, however, was dealing with multiple losses of her own, with intense feelings of pain and sadness. This shared intensity of affect, although fraught with difficulty, was able to promote therapeutic growth by enhancing mutual identifications, connection, and attunement. In identifying with the needy, infantile parts of her patients, the author was able to nurture both them and herself. Similarly, the patients could identify with the stronger, more adult part of their analyst and hold on to the reality that both would survive, despite the intensity of the pain.