In this article I respond to Weber's commentary by amplifying some of my initial points. While our papers dwell on overlapping themes, I believe there are differences in emphasis. Weber is particularly concerned with the challenge of establishing a balance between arrogance and self-doubt. While I acknowledge the importance of this concern, I place greater emphasis on the transformative nature of a type of radical acceptance. Responding to Weber's paper has given me an opportunity to think in greater depth about the relationship between nonduality, acceptance and surrender, and to elaborate on the relevance for psychoanalysis of the Zen notion of perceiving suchness, that is, a type of surrender or “letting go” that allows one to experience the perfection of things as they are.