The paper is divided into four parts: 1) intersecting subjectivities, or the “back story” of the author's personal relationship with Heinz Kohut, which, it is argued, must be a part of any biographical project with an avowed psychological purpose; 2) Jewish identity, or the many confusions Kohut harbored about his Jewishness, from his childhood, through his youth in Vienna, and into his emigration to America; 3) sexual identity, or the fluid sexual boundaries he negotiated throughout his life, and that culminated in an asexuality that allowed him to sacrifice his life to his creativity; and 4) theoretical meanings, which asserts that the point of deep immersion in a life, including some controversial elements, is to probe the larger meanings for the theory of personal experience. Kohut, the paper concludes, needed to change psychoanalytic theory in order to find a place for himself in it.