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This article illustrates the concept of schizoid shame, a self-erasing urge arising from childhood exposure to severe parental narcissism. Schizoid shame prohibits all pleasure-in-selfhood and silences the expression of emotional needs. A child with such minimal needs is– for the domineering, narcissistic parent—perfect. The author asserts that such a child ultimately conflates being perfect with being no-one, suffering a flood of shame during moments of independent self-expression. Schizoid shame is presented in two case illustrations as an agent of self-erasure, as well as an eraser of the author’s analytic reverie in the transference. Without reverie as a guide to these patients’ relational unconscious, their shame—so pivotal to their functioning—was initially not palpable in the treatments. Yet, once the author perceived that these patients’ desire to be perfect was actually a desire to be no-one, their shame-inducing bondage to their internalized narcissistic parent emerged through reverie.