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This is the second volume of a trilogy on married happiness, and its purpose is to help the general public to an understanding of 'those repelling forces between the sexes which threaten the happiness of a marriage', with a view to their successful overcoming. The author endorses Stekel's Law of Bi-Polarity to the effect that in married love there is also married hatred. He distinguishes in this hatred a primary sexual antagonism, the inescapable polar contrast to sexual attraction, and a secondary sexual antagonism due to a reversal of the sex impulse itself as a means of defence against the impulse itself or as a result of trauma, lack of satisfaction or other cause of aversion. Understanding of the differences between the sexes will help to bridge the gulf between them. Masculine and feminine contrasts therefore receive detailed consideration. The essence of the problem to Van de Velde lies in what he calls the psychological tragedy of woman, namely, that 'She desires submission with her whole soul and being but seeks to gain power. She herself, sooner or later (usually, however, from the very first) begins the struggle for power, and if she wins the victory, she loses the very thing that she most needs, the