In this manuscript we engage with Thomas Ogden's (2016) reconceptualization of D.W. Winnicott's seminal description of the movement between object relating and object usage. Here, Ogden's focuses on the real destruction that mother suffers at the hand of their infant/child. Although incredibly valuable to the literature we believe that Ogden does not go far enough. Specifically, describing this destruction as real maintains problematic confusion surrounding the infant's agency. Accordingly, we provide a different way of viewing development. Drawing from physics we suggest that development can be understood as a wave of potentiality, which can both be collapsed and expanded. This idea allows us to better appreciate and situate destruction within the realm of adolescence. We offer examples from literature and our clinical work to demonstrate this.