This paper is an exploration of the theories of Sandor Ferenczi and D. W. Winnicott across three major themes that both converge and challenge each other and psychoanalytic theories on a broader scale. Through an analysis of concepts including Ferenczi's autoplastic and alloplastic adaptation and Winnicott's concepts of psychic disintegration and unintegration, the author highlights each theorist's contributions in moving psychoanalysis beyond the Freudian emphasis of the intrapsychic realm towards an intersubjectivity. Psychoanalysis is presented with a novel ‘third’ realm through Ferenczi's enlargement of the scene of trauma to include three presences (the subject, the other of aggression and the other of denial), and Winnicott's third area of experiencing, destablising the Freudian binary of internal/external. Ferenczi and Winnicott's utilisation of tact, devotion, and care pioneered aspects of psychoanalysis that are conceived as traditionally feminine. The author explores how this centralises the previously marginalised mother role in psychoanalysis and challenges the phallocentrism of Freudian theory and technique. The clinical and technical impacts of these destabilisations and innovations in psychoanalytic theory are explored in both theorists work with infants/patients. The author focuses on the advancements this afforded the philosophy of psychoanalysis, towards relational horizontality.