Grievance is a common experience in everyday life. However, for certain people, it is a central feature of a pathological personality structure. Little attention has been paid to the aggrieved state of mind among Chinese women, especially in the context of the deeply rooted cultural and societal preference for sons over daughters. To assist in identifying and overcoming the mental state of grievance as a path to well-being, this paper delineates the prototypical clinical manifestations of grievance in Chinese female psychotherapy patients; explores its societal representations; examines its echoes in mythological narratives; and ultimately, draws on the collaborative writing experience of the authors (a China-based female clinician and a UK-based male clinician) to indicate how to experientially map and process grievance within relationships.