I explicate how psychoanalysis, in general, and self psychology, in particular, can offer us in-depth understandings of why discrimination and violence against the other is a common human phenomenon, how self psychology can offer us compelling reasons for why we must relate to those who are different from us, and why self psychology's concept of empathy offers us the best understanding for what constitutes a genuine relation to the other—one that finds profound reverberations in the ethical works of Kant, Buber, Levinas, and Arendt.