This discussion of Maddux’s and Corpt’s important and moving papers offers additional perspectives for enriching our appreciation of the work they are doing to expand our clinical ethics. I look at Gilligan, Dinnerstein, “Mad Men,” and my own experience to further explore Maddux’s attention to the construction of gender in the formulation of care as “soft,” and view both analysts’ clinical vignettes with a complexity sensibility. I affirm the richness of their theoretical ideas and add my own notion of an interpretative attitude to Corpt’s discussion of a response to her patient. Using brief clinical examples of my own, I illuminate how Maddux and Corpt, as well as my patients, have taught me to quiet my pushy self and listen more carefully.