This discussion of Dr. Kathy Marks’s paper, In the Nick of Time: Motherhood and the Analytic Pair, centers on a patient’s need to probe the analyst’s subjectivity. Clinical processes involving the therapeutic dyad mutually bearing and transforming shame are described. The place of motherhood (or non-motherhood) within our western culture and within psychoanalysis is explored. The very nature of a maternal sensibility is described. I argue that through writing the paper, Marks embarked on a journey to discover and consolidate her own maternal identity.