In this paper I discuss John Riker’s article, “A Critique of Stolorow’s Erasure of Self Psychology and his Appropriation of Heigegger’s Theory of Authenticity, plus the Possibility of an Intersubjective Self Psychology” a paper in which Riker sets out to evaluate Stolorow’s intersubjectivity theory and its contribution to psychoanalysis. I attempt to add something to Riker’s consideration of intersubjectivity especially as it relates to our shared mortality, a topic addressed by Stolorow in a lifetime of books and papers. I also comment on some of the similarities and differences between the ideas of Kohut and Stolorow, suggesting that to some extent these differences lie more in the distinctive languages coined by the two authors than in the ideas themselves.