The case of Angie is a story of a clash of cultures. A painful confrontation between Angie and me forced me to confront some of my own culture-bound assumptions, including some culture-bound psychoanalytic assumptions that I had previously taken for granted. For example, I had thoughtlessly assumed that coming to access one’s feelings and learning to articulate them would naturally lead to self-assertive action on one’s own behalf. Such self-assertive behavior tends to look like “taking care of myself,” often in opposition to someone else’s needs. Now, I have come to believe that this is a bias in psychanalytic culture that deserves deconstruction and examination. My confrontation with Angie caused me to recognize that owning one’s feelings allows for a wide range of behavioral choices. Generosity and self-sacrifice are among these choices; that is, self-sacrifice may be a healthy choice and not necessarily an aberrant behavior.