In this paper I shall suggest that, in addition to ‘conscience’, the archetype of Eros plays an important part in ‘benign relatedness’ and that this is what constitutes an ethical attitude. I also propose that the idea of ‘benign relatedness’ can provide us with a workable concept for those serving on Ethics Committees especially when our Code of Ethics is unclear or limited. I attempt to show that the analytic attitude is essentially ethical and define what I see as the analytic attitude as a way of demonstrating this. By discussing the neurotic sexual countertransference and unconscious identity I hope to clarify the main reasons for unethical enactments. I use examples of ethical problems, including a personal experience, to illustrate the kinds that occur and lastly I discuss how mourning plays an important part in the resolution and avoidance of these problems.