This paper revisits Green's “dead mother” through the treatment of a patient bound to a dependent, ambivalent parent. The author introduces livingdeadness to describe a stalled psychic state organized by an internal “suicidal caretaker,” an object configuration marked by chronic indecision in which neither separation nor mourning can be sustained. Clinical material shows how this inertia enters the transference–countertransference and progressively immobilizes the analyst. A moment of unexpected suicidal ideation in the analyst is examined as a countertransference communication that clarifies the patient's internal dilemma and shifts the analytic field. Recognizing the suicidal caretaker is presented as a way of loosening the deadlock and restoring movement toward agency and differentiation.