Following the Oedipal conflict, the daughter must establish a desexualized relationship to her father. This enables her to accept the feminine role without guilt or anxiety and to give her love to a young man of her peer group. Crucial to this achievement is whether her father is available as a love object and able to offer her affection without being seduced by her fantasies or seducing her with his own. If he does not participate in the family situation, she will either seek an idealized father surrogate or persist in the preoedipal narcissistic attitude of desiring a mother and seek a man who will 'mother' her. If the father exhibits defensive hostility, she may seek a man opposite to her father. If a reciprocal attachment persists, it may prove almost as emotionally crippling as a symbiotic attachment to the mother.