Hanus considers the effect on the child of being chosen to replace a child that has died. This common enough human tendency, to replace what is lost, is in effect to deny the loss and avoid the mourning process involved in giving up the lost object. When the lost object is, say, an older child, and a younger sibling is, consciously or unconsciously, elected the replacement for this lost object, the impact on the replacement child's psyche is enormous. The new child must function under the duress of parental narcissism, which has idealized the lost child, and finds himself forever confused with the lost child. In analysis, this replacement child has the thankless task, the difficult labor, of renouncing the fascination and strangeness of the internal object, this narcissistic creation of his parents, because of the link with his own narcissism and ego ideal. To attempt to mourn the lost child, and to separate from him, is sometimes, for the replacement child, an attack on his own psychic