The authors attempt to add a self psychology vantage point to the topic of the death of a parent during childhood. They argue that the question, to what degree can children of different ages mourn the loss of a parent, must be expanded to take into account not only the object loss, but also the selfobject loss. That is, they focus on the impact of the loss of narcissistic supplies (i.e., the repairing, sustaining, and regulating relationships of the self) from the lost parent, and also from the remaining parent, depending on how the remaining parent's ability to provide support and encouragement for the child is compromised by his or her reaction to the death of the spouse. The authors provide brief examples from the analyses of four latency age children, and a longer clinical vignette from the analysis of an adult.