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The narcissistic and borderline personality types complement one another’s defensive style. The narcissist is exploitative, grandiose, and dominant, forever seeking admiration and exhibiting an aggrandized self. The borderline experiences humiliation, neediness, helplessness, and terror of being alone. The two can form a powerful complementary dyad in which each identifies with split-off, disavowed emotional experiences found in the other. This dyad can coexist for lengths of time, defensively discharging unwanted feelings. By means of a clinical example, the author demonstrates how a “masoborderline” patient was victimized and humiliated by her “sadonarcissistic” lover. In a second example, a “sadonarcissistic” man enacted disavowed feelings through relationships with “masoborderline” women. In both cases, defensive enactment was enhanced by a complementary, intense, and symbiotic relationship. Complementary dynamics involve defensive identification that utilizes projection, enactment, and externalization—all difficult defenses to analyze. The author warns that more than the usual analytic patience is needed to work through these dynamics.