Clinicians who have worked with a couple going through a divorce or with a child whose parents are going through a divorce or custody battle know how devastating the process can be for everyone involved, especially the children. A family court judge once said to me: “There are three kinds of divorce. About fifteen percent of the time, people decide that they've made a mistake and should part company. They shake hands, wish each other well, and go on with their lives. That's okay. In the majority of divorces there is a lot of anger and hostility, but I can get the couple to control themselves for the most part when they need to