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Over the summer, I was preparing a course on psychoanalytic couples therapy and was utilizing video clips from the TV series Couples Therapy, which features Orna Gurlanik. One of the couples in season four is polycule, so I searched the psychoanalytic literature for readings on polyamory. I was surprised to discover virtually no psychoanalytic writings dedicated to this topic, aside from an article by McCann1 that focuses on a type of nonmonogamy practiced by gay men, rather than polyamory specifically. A broader search yielded The Many Faces of Polyamory: Longing and Belonging in Concurrent Relationships, a book written by Magdelena Fosse in 2021. Though the book is theoretically eclectic rather than specifically psychoanalytic, it is a useful read for the psychoanalyst. Aside from the importance of being able to work with a broad range of patients, understanding polyamory can help analysts think more critically of monogamy, including its adaptive and defensive functions. It can also help analysts address mononormative biases. For example, in the wake of an affair, most psychoanalytic (and non-psychoanalytic) couple therapists strive to help the couple restore their monogamous state–-rarely do therapists help the couple reexamine and renegotiate the terms of their relationship. Dr. Fosse likens this mononormative bias to heteronormativity. She points out that increased attention and education about non-heterosexual orientations have helped redress this bias, and the same could be true for polyamory.