The author makes use of Glennon's and Cole's discussions to elaborate the relationship between our conceptions of self and the ways in which we understand the experience of loss. In discussing the intrapsychic self, the self as it is constituted through the process of relating and the existential self, he argues that when we make room for multiplicity and the complex, dynamic interplay of diverse self states and modes of experiencing, these different conceptions of self both enhance and complement our experience of loss.