This paper engages the secular mind’s struggle with mortality from a relational perspective. It critically reviews the legacy of Freud’s refusal to grant mortality psychic significance and the ways in which the fear of death has consequently been understood theoretically and addressed clinically. Analytic omnipotence is foregrounded as an impediment to the kind of intersubjective engagement that minds need from other minds in grappling with the loss of the self through death. A clinical illustration is used to explore the ways in which the analyst found himself relating with a patient around her extreme fear of death, which over the course of treatment became modified into a more bearable anxiety about her own mortality. A conceptual framework is offered to account for these changes, emphasizing the analyst’s personal relationship with mortality as a crucial variable in how the fear of death is engaged psychoanalytically. The author calls for a revisionist psychoanalysis that allows for death’s centrality in both theory and practice.