Barth’s (this issue) thoughtful article draws our attention to the ubiquity and dangers of competitiveness in women’s relationships. She highlights the tension between women’s desires to be nurturing and supportive of one another, and their discomfort with being competitive with and envious of one another. In responding to Barth, I address three aspects of her article. The first is the broader sociopolitical context in which women compete. The second is the need to delineate the complex and important differences between competition and envy, which are so often linked but are essentially quite different emotional states. I explore the role of shame as an underpinning of envy. Third, I take up Barth’s comment regarding traditional psychoanalytic technique being employed by the analyst as defensive maneuver.