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In this essay on aging, I offer candid vignettes that exemplify the embodied experiences of aging, especially for women, from the inside out and from the outside in. More generally, I apply Harry Stack Sullivan’s conceptual model of a “self-system” shaped by the reflected appraisals of others. Thereby, I emphasize how the anxieties and reactions of others to external signs of aging may impact a person’s ownership and/or defensive dis-ownership (“Not Me”) of her aging self. I offer a concept of “Old Me,” a later-in-life personification that may be “Good” or “Bad” but provides a more conscious, life-affirming alternative than the dissociative option of “Not Me.” Finally, I recommend and briefly illustrate specific measures a person may deploy to infuse aging with aliveness.