This essay moves beyond my earlier focus on relational excess and turns a critical eye on my own work. After describing my relational holding model, I address its limitations—both theoretical and clinical. What is problematic in the implicit analytic ideal embedded in the concept of holding? How does this vision of therapeutic process both add to and narrow the clinical arena? What is absent, overlooked, or just plain wrong in this perspective? I address the dialectics embedded within the holding metaphor, their crucial and problematic implications. I then muse about what has shifted my relationship to my own theory over time. My aim is to push past othering and toward theoretical self-examination.