In response to the paper “Nicki, Nicholas, Nicole: Play as Relational Therapeutic Action on the Transgender Edge,” Virginia Goldner and Charla Malamed have offered supportive comments and important critiques. Goldner has raised questions about the process of mourning gendered self-states that present themselves earlier in development. This paper, as a response to the respondents, puts Goldner’s questions in dialogue with the concepts of après coup and psychic time, problematizing notions about what is past and present vis-à-vis varying gender configurations. Malamed links my lack of explicit disclosure around certain positionalities to creating a space that was dangerous for therapeutic play. Here, I take issue with the concreteness of that position, suggesting that the intersubjective fabric of a treatment—and subsequent democratization of the clinical relationship—is a more appropriate benchmark for evaluating the potential for exploitative dynamics. The nature of risk and safety in clinical encounters is also discussed.