This paper weaves my own personal and clinical experience with psychoanalytic and gender theory to contribute an understanding of the prevalence and risk of suicide transmission within long-term bereaved families. Integrating personal and theoretical, I propose a theory of how suicide transforms into a “mysterious object” within some families, haunting subsequent generations. Specifically, the view of women as dangerous and subservient to men interpellates grief – silencing, abjecting, and shrouding women where they have “failed” as caregivers and mothers. Gender ideology is tracked to demonstrate how this abjection carries an active absence, resulting in radioactivity and a dead third through family lines. The intersections of gender and suicide highlight the need to acknowledge culturally silenced and ungrievable trauma as buried truths in the cultural landscape of the individual’s life story.