The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Mentalizing Tales of Dating and Marriage is an ambitious book, the collaboration of two Los Angeles psychiatrist-psychoanalysts and a New York psychologist specializing in couples therapy. They have set out to cover as much territory in adult relationships as their transcontinental locations might suggest they aim to bridge through collaboration, weaving together attachment theory, evolutionary psychiatry, and a variety of couples treatment modalities with mentalization theory into a cohesive approach to understanding and working with the problems of contemporary couples. This approach