This paper explores the complex emotional and psychological dimensions of language use among immigrants, particularly within the therapeutic relationship. Prompted by a clinical case conference in which a presenter expressed grief over losing his accent and connection to his mother tongue, the author reflects on her own contrasting experience of linguistic adaptation—initially felt as a source of pride, yet later reconsidered as possibly masking a deeper sense of loss. Drawing on personal and clinical experiences as a bilingual psychoanalyst and immigrant, the paper examines how language can carry both an aspirational quality of mastery and belonging, and a trailing edge of alienation and disconnection from one’s cultural roots. The author argues that language choice in therapy is deeply entwined with identity, emotional security, and the search for a relational home, particularly in times of chaos and uncertainty.