How does a person recognize themselves if no matter what layer of time – past, present, or likely future – what you see is a mirror of your you-ness in relation to others, and not for yourself? Through exploring the texture of a therapeutic relationships with a client that had been emotionally and racially erased, the author explores the dialectic of centering, decentering, and recentering. Journeying into opacity and passability, the author identifies that the recentering needed in this case of racial erasure is not a conscious undertaking but a phenomenal and relational surrender. Recentering includes filling the space with emergent ways of expressing our beingness, leaning into allowing our bodies to speak in a language that does not yet exist. The author also proposes how recentering can be a communal undertaking, one for the whole field of psychoanalysis.