This article describes the process of analytic treatment of Mary, unfolding through snippets that illustrate her feminine identity, her dreams, conflicts with her husband, and the countertransference of the therapist. Mary grew freer and even eloquent about her feelings (enhancement of verbalisation) and became more self-aware with a growing ability to think of herself and about others (enhancement of metalization). She gained an acceptance of her daughter's affection, of her own self, and a new ability to make judgements and decisions for herself and for her family (an enhancement of autonomy). As Mary became more present in the family and sought a more equal partnership, her marriage also arrived at a major finish line at the same time as did our analytic work.