In clinical couple therapy, it is common to see the interaction mode of what I call “the reverse frustrating object” in the relationships of partners. For both partners in distress, their longing for love often goes unanswered, causing them to fall into disappointment, frustration, anger, and despair. As a result, their relationship is entangled and on the verge of rupture. As the couple work progresses, both partners gradually realise that their unconscious defensive responses and the way they interact with the reverse frustrating object prevents communication and feeling loved. This clinical article shows the slow progress in therapy that eventually results in the achievement of a warm and loving relationship.