In this paper I discuss the treatment of a thirty-one-year-old man, who had never had any sexual relations with another person. He was unsure of his sexual identity and did not experience the sensation of feeling like “a man.” When an event in the treatment left my patient feeling that he had lost his selfobject connection to me, and he became deflated and depressed, I began to respond to his needs for information about me through the disclosure of personal facts about myself and my body. These self-disclosures helped to repair a rupture in the selfobject transference, which, over time, helped to facilitate his developing a sense of feeling like “a man,” and which contributed to his growth and integration in the world.