This article offers a conception of individual gender identity as multifaceted rather than unitary, arguing that traditional conceptions of gender force a false dichotomy. Lesbian relationships afford a degree of freedom from the conventional restrictions of gender and need to be explored within this context. Traditional psychoanalytic theory posits masculine identity as the basis for lesbian development. I argue that lesbian identity instead reflects a diversity of representations and identifications that may be drawn on in intimate connections. This fluidity can be understood in the terms of Winnicott's (1971) conception of potential space with its possibilities for creativity and psychic expansiveness. The reparative power of psychic play in lesbian relationships can lead to an enlarged sense of what is feminine.