Nearly one million children per year are faced with the transition of divorce. The needs of the divorcing family require a great deal of attention and support. More often than not, parents are overwhelmed and focus on their own needs during this transition and may often use the children to this end. The repercussions from this can be devastating to the children. At the time of divorce, children are vulnerable and unable to speak for themselves. This paper examines and discusses divorce mediation, separation trauma, separation anxiety, and what the authors term transition anxiety. A child assessment process is presented that helps therapists, divorce mediators, and parents sift through the problems, broaden their perspective and focus on the needs of the children during this crucial time.