This article starts from the question “does it take two fathers to be a mother?” but also “does it take two fathers to be a father?”. In both cases there is an implicit reference to the oedipal dynamic of the parents and thus to the binary difference, i.e. the difference between genders and generations. In their parenthood, father and mother are confronted with the resurgence of their Oedipus complex and the possibility of overcoming it through their loving position towards each other, but at the same time they fall victim to the resurgence of all their infantile sexuality fuelled by infantile impulsivity. Being a father requires making a positive connection between what might be called primary paternal anxiety and the censorship of this lover.