This article suggests the ways in which feminism's demands on the culture are reshaping the relationships of teenage girls to one another and their self experience. It addresses the newly observed capacity of girls to apparently break out of the monolith of merged attachments and show evidence for aspects of differentiation. It argues that aspects of the mother's ambition for a daughter's success are, however, being internalized in ways that unintentionally reproduce aspects of a prefeminist merged mother-daughter relationship. It argues that the so-called postfeminist moment is producing a notion that girls can have it all, but a continuing and stable sense of self that can manage such complexity and multiple desires is often lacking.