This article attempts to interpret the evolution of the concept of intersubjectivity in Jessica Benjamin's work as a movement from probing into domination, through probing into recognition, to probing into surrender. After a short discussion of Benjamin's concept of domination, the article illustrates the way Benjamin's concept of intersubjectivity shifted, with the development of her thought, from mutual recognition of separate subjects to recognition of our basic interpenetrating creation and entwinement. Through a discussion of Hegel's philosophy a case is made that the evolution from an ontological stance that gives precedence to the subjective dimension of experience to an ontology which sees subjectivity, intersubjectivity, and objectivity as three essential dimensions of every human experience lies at the core of Benjamin's evolving concepts of intersubjectivity. A clinical vignette serves to illustrate the difference between domination, mutual recognition, and surrender.