Engaging in racial dialogue is essential as the world becomes increasingly diverse. The aim of this article is to describe how unconscious processes play a role in the disconnections that exist between racial ethnic groups and to explore how authentic dialogue about race can be an important vehicle to help us understand the perspective of the other, creating a collaborative process to foster less aggressive and more meaningful relationships. We provide a case example and an analysis of racial dialogue among women from four racial ethnic groups - white, black, Asian, and Latina. Finally implications for research, practice and limitations are outlined.