The observation of families has led to some questions that may elucidate the dynamics of the developmental work necessary for passing beyond the stage of primary narcissism. Family observation provides a point of view which directs attention to this work as a family function. The conceptualization presented has grown out of observing many kinds of families. This concept is used in describing the organization of families in which the preobject mode of relationship is a primary way of life. A family system of behavioral transmission of this way of life is proposed. Continued exploration of this area holds promise of revealing pertinent information about the ways children in ordinary circumstances are taught to learn.