The article presents the “Nazareth-Conferences” set up to explore relations between Germans, Israeli Jews and other groups in relation to the Holocaust or other conflicts. These conferences were created to better understand how feelings and fantasies about national identity influence relations between groups and how they affect perceptions of the future. The article also describes how these conferences have evolved since their inception in 1994, by broadening their scope to include other groups and travelling to different countries. The author shares her personal experiences, highlighting the challenges she has encountered and the insights gained. She emphasizes the importance of psychoanalytic work in understanding intergroup conflicts and the need to promote dialogue to prevent future cycles of hatred and violence.