Loving implies a relationship with an object, but the subject's libidinal economy must be able to devote itself to another. One obstacle to the capacity to love is the fear of being taken advantage of, of losing oneself, leading to the fantasy of “being a couple” conceived as a controlled programme between two individuals, but which is necessarily doomed to failure insofar as the economy of Eros presupposes the ability to expend oneself without calculation, beyond all reckoning. The logic of love is not based on exchange or a contract guaranteeing ataraxia, but rather on an economy of expenditure where loss and upheaval in the romantic encounter make the art of loving more possible. Loving requires making oneself available to the transformative action of the two lovers engaged in this relationship that overwhelms them.